tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980661477245033955.post1498593510367906718..comments2023-11-01T11:17:40.377-04:00Comments on True Stories, Honest Lies: The grief continuumLaurahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06434407684834155358noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980661477245033955.post-87491409373319624412018-03-05T17:24:06.932-05:002018-03-05T17:24:06.932-05:00Hello Laura,
Thank you for sharing your story. I&...Hello Laura,<br /><br />Thank you for sharing your story. I'm sorry for this time of your life. This part of life is very confusing for me. I feel that at this time there isn't anything right that a person can say when your heart is broken. Words of encouragements fall on the ears like water on a rubber duck, it just rolls off. <br /><br />I remember when I lost a job it felt the same when I lost my best friend who died. I was sick, I was heartbroken. All I knew was I needed to keep moving to keep things together and not fall apart. When I lost my job, I had to continue to look for another job. Sitting in and being interviewed was very hard because my heart was broken. But I had to continue until I got another job and that feeling went away.<br /><br />When I lost my bestfriend, I was heart broken, I continued to move forward going to work, keeping myself busy with family and friends. I went through a state where I didn't believe he was gone. I had crying bouts. Dealing with both occasions I didn't feel the need to stay in bed depressed. I've always kept moving because I just felt that moving was the best thing to do. I loved him/I loved the job that I had, I didn't want to leave when they asked me too. Life goes on. This world is beautiful, I say this because we are all wired differently. We all feel differently when something challenging in life happens to us or not. I agree with you that, just because people are moving it doesn't mean that they are not grieving. As people we handle things differently and we react different to situations. People are only saying what they feel at the moment to be comforting. I wish you love, strength, acceptance, peace and happiness. I'm truly sorry for your loss.<br />Best Regards, Alicia Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980661477245033955.post-70599302928326624492014-05-10T06:58:34.947-04:002014-05-10T06:58:34.947-04:00Laura, I lost my son's father 2 years ago and ...Laura, I lost my son's father 2 years ago and if there had been a different cultural model I don't think I would have felt as crazy and worried I was losing my mind. Grief is powerful and early on I never knew what to expect, or I would feel like going out but then I would be paralyzed with crying fits. Hell, just yesterday I was at work searching through old emails and I came across ones he had sent years ago, the pain and grief all came back. I had to close my door and cry. Thank you for the post and sharing your space of the world right now. My heart is with you as navigate and learn to live with your loss. <br />Regards, KiraAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17603353682046891793noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980661477245033955.post-58320000880941347672014-05-10T00:47:31.307-04:002014-05-10T00:47:31.307-04:00Yes! When I lost my daughter I experienced emotion...Yes! When I lost my daughter I experienced emotional paralysis, bout of moaning and sobbing, quiet calm, flurries of activity, enjoyed working, enjoyed a laugh with friends. And so much more. I don't know what people meant when they told me that they would be so much more devastated than they "thought" I was - but I do know how it made me feel. It made me feel as if we were in some contest about who felt more deeply, loved more deeply. I think conversations about grief, about accepting all forms, should be part of our lives so that when the unimaginable happens we can be compassionate with ourselves. So we can be compassionate with others and instead of comparing how we think we'll feel with what we imagine someone else is feeling - we simply offer our love and support. Without comparisons, without judgements. Thank you for this post Laura. Thank you for opening your heart to us. Kimberley McGillhttp://feralcompassliving.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980661477245033955.post-34543818832801007412014-05-09T18:10:53.842-04:002014-05-09T18:10:53.842-04:00Dear Laura, thinking of you ever~ has that book tu...Dear Laura, thinking of you ever~ has that book turned up yet? {{{{hugs}}}}}Paula Weisshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12060154902763210961noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980661477245033955.post-8263254403723035162014-05-09T14:57:45.618-04:002014-05-09T14:57:45.618-04:00Laura, when people tell you how they admire what y...Laura, when people tell you how they admire what you're doing, I don't think they mean that you must not be grieving. I think they admire what you're doing despite grieving. I'm not sure if this is something that we can talk about before it happens; we might just set ourselves up for thinking that we failed if we don't experience it the way we imagined. Can we create a self-fulfilling prophecy for grieving? I'm just asking -- I don't know the answer. Love you.Ms. Piazzihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02578491825205228686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980661477245033955.post-3650039203252414962014-05-09T14:34:34.265-04:002014-05-09T14:34:34.265-04:00When I am grieving, I usually throw myself into so...When I am grieving, I usually throw myself into some project that keeps me too busy to think. Of course, what I am doing is postponing the inevitable (unhealthy, to say the least). After my mother died I saw a grief counselor, who encouraged me to write and tell stories about her. Good advice.<br />Linda Goodmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10351953614534980830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980661477245033955.post-91655225730518684522014-05-09T12:34:41.353-04:002014-05-09T12:34:41.353-04:00A-freaking-men!!! Laura, you have written brillian...A-freaking-men!!! Laura, you have written brilliantly over the years but none needs to be more publicized than this! All in our own time we will heal as much as we are able! I love you. xoxoxoAlwaysJoyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03840004740611104256noreply@blogger.com