tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980661477245033955.post744666180363545294..comments2023-11-01T11:17:40.377-04:00Comments on True Stories, Honest Lies: Intimacy and privacyLaurahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06434407684834155358noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980661477245033955.post-14968189677321317032014-02-03T20:26:47.790-05:002014-02-03T20:26:47.790-05:00I wish we were local enough to be some of the peop...I wish we were local enough to be some of the people giving you unexpected and comforting hugs. Kon and I have you very much in mind and are wishing you the best. <br /><br />I've watched two other friends battle cancer. Both did way better than their initial prognosis; one being cancer free for years despite only being given months to live and the other still being clear for longer than expected given the type of cancer he has. They're both doing great and tell me that treatments get better all the time. Here's hoping you get the same happy breaks and get through this as quickly and painlessly as is possible!Alyssanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980661477245033955.post-89974097780407204612014-02-01T20:50:11.131-05:002014-02-01T20:50:11.131-05:00thanks Tess. We are getting good care, very compas...thanks Tess. We are getting good care, very compassionate and kind. Thanks for the reminder. And thanks for telling me I'm doing it right. I'm so damned scared I'll screw up.Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06434407684834155358noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980661477245033955.post-88578796997586997712014-02-01T20:09:52.563-05:002014-02-01T20:09:52.563-05:00Laura your love, compassion and sense of what is r...Laura your love, compassion and sense of what is right has always held me in awe. I continue to be inspired by both you and Kevin. I am honored you have included us in your journey. I pray that we all benefit from your honest perspective. Vernon Cox your Maine Storytellerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09382456251262402917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980661477245033955.post-37111351722140317922014-02-01T05:20:44.980-05:002014-02-01T05:20:44.980-05:00Laura,
You are so smart! You've stepped into ...Laura,<br /><br />You are so smart! You've stepped into an incredibly difficult role and you're doing a great job! I'm proud of you. And honestly there's no one I can think of who would be a better guard dog for those they care about than you! Love youAlwaysJoyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03840004740611104256noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980661477245033955.post-74769718201640938892014-02-01T00:51:02.658-05:002014-02-01T00:51:02.658-05:00Yes. You have a wise, tender and loving heart. I&#...Yes. You have a wise, tender and loving heart. I've been a Hospice Volunteer and an ER volunteer and the dignity of privacy, of knowing who and why - make a difference. Still keeping you both tucked in my prayers. Kimberley McGillhttp://feralcompassliving.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980661477245033955.post-51298630288030827902014-02-01T00:04:14.340-05:002014-02-01T00:04:14.340-05:00Laura, from the perspective of a nurse, I want to ...Laura, from the perspective of a nurse, I want to tell you that you are doing the right thing; just the right thing; precisely, intuitively, absolutely the right thing. <br />It is an aspect peculiar to caregiving to cross the boundaries, metaphorical and physical, from a social distance to an intimate one, within mere moments. A knock at the door, “Hello, <br />I’ll be your nurse this evening. How are you feeling? I’m going to palpate your abdomen, tell me if it hurts.”<br />They will not remember to guard his privacy, though they will (they ought, they must) respect it. They will choose safety over dignity every time. Both can be managed, if you can help them see how. Dignity will come to mean something other than what it did, to you both. <br />They will cause him pain; they will bear witness to it; they will do their utmost to relieve it. <br />They are people, too. Just folks. It is important to remember. It is however their obligation to be caregivers first, and just people second. <br />Above all, they care. Every person who walks into that room; every person who sees his chart, every consultant and service person you encounter; they care for him. They care for you. <br />They carry you in their hearts, home to their dinner tables, to bed with them at night, seeing their children off to school. You are not alone. <br /><br /><br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09989144853222820341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980661477245033955.post-23292817662344016022014-01-31T23:45:19.952-05:002014-01-31T23:45:19.952-05:00You are a wise soul indeed Laura. I remember carin...You are a wise soul indeed Laura. I remember caring for my father when he was battling cancer, privacy was indeed a luxury. Bless you for being so mindful of his needs. <br /><br />Love to you both.Karen Chacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12419511205674143737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980661477245033955.post-5619264831741103862014-01-31T19:41:48.584-05:002014-01-31T19:41:48.584-05:00I honor you, guard dog with a heart and a mind and...I honor you, guard dog with a heart and a mind and a clear sense of proportion despite all the challenges. You model for us what we can be. Sending love --Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09998024592192318156noreply@blogger.com